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Club Daddy – Words of Advice as the Husbands of Club MomMe’s Founders Celebrate their First Father’s Days

Club MomMe would not be here today without the support, love and encouragement from two great men – our husbands! As we embarked on the adventure to launch a new business when our little ones were less than six months old, we relied a lot on our husbands for advice, help with our little men, a shoulder to lean on for the hard days and someone to celebrate with on the good days.

Today we celebrate these men, these fathers, on their first father’s day. As our boys were born in the same week a year ago in less than two weeks, our husbands just missed father’s day last year.

They have the unique perspective of being able to celebrate their first father’s day with almost one year of fatherhood under their belts, and they share their wisdom and experiences with us today.

Nathan is Rachel’s husband and dad to Grayson. Joe is Lane’s husband and dad to Harrison.

What is your favorite thing about being a dad?

Nathan – Having Grayson in my life.

Joe – Making Harrison smile.

What were you least prepared for?

Nathan – The time commitment, both physically and mentally. It consumes you.

Joe – How tired I would get chasing him around, and the amount of preparation it takes to go anywhere.

What has surprised you most?

Nathan – Grayson, he surprises me nearly every day. I feel so fortunate to have such an amazing son.

Joe – Seeing how fast Harrison grows(he’s huge) and how quickly he learns things.

If you could go back and tell yourself anything right before you had a baby, what would it be?

Nathan – That I should go out with my guy friends more… because it isn’t happening after.

Joe – Enjoy the quiet while you can.

How has being a dad changed you?

Nathan – I used to be very much a carefree person. Now I am totally over protective and so conscience of every move I make, Rachel makes, Grayson makes, etc..

Joe – I hope it hasn’t changed me too much, but I worry more about safety and things I never thought about before.

What advice would you give new dads?

Nathan – Soak it all in, be patient and level.

Joe – It’s a lot more fun than your friends make it out to be.

Do you have any tips or tricks to share with new dads?

Nathan – Move as close to your in-laws as humanly possible… trust me.

Joe – Remember those old pictures of your parents when they were young and how strange you thought they looked? Well, they didn’t have a clue either and they got through it just fine.

What does fathers day mean to you?

Nathan – Honestly, I think it will mean more to me as my relationship with Grayson evolves and as our family evoles. Right now every day is Father/Son/Mother’s day There is always something new and I appreciate every moment. That said, I am going to use Father’s Day to get breakfast bed.

Joe – Growing up it always meant family barbecues where the Dads all drank more beer than usual. Now that I have a son it reminds me how lucky I was to have a great role model in my dad. That and no diaper changes!

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All I Want for Father’s Day by Dr. Elliot Berlin

Today we are excited to share a guest post from Dr. Elliot Berlin, Founder of the Berlin Wellness Group in Los Angeles and Orange County on Father’s Day:

All I want for Father’s Day is time.  More time with my wife.  More time with my kids.  More time away from my kids.  More time for work.  Time to read Time.  Just Time.   As a kid, I remember the older folks talking about how life tends to move faster as the years go by.  I must be getting older because right now life is flying by at a million miles and two tweets per second and I’m struggling to hold on for dear life.

Father’s Day Card for Rachel’s Husband

Being a dad is amazing and difficult and interesting and different than it ever was before.  Just 50 years ago, dads role in having a kid was minimal.  After conception we’d go back to hunting and gathering and mom would handle nurturing the growing bump, delivering the kid and taking care of it.  Him.  Or her. During childbirth, for example, our role was to pace back and forth in a remote waiting area, nervously smoking cigars since we didn’t have wifi to keep us plugged in and distracted.Father’s Day Card for Rachel’s Husband

Times are changing quickly.  Today, dad’s are getting more involved.  We are going to those interesting prenatal visits and taking childbirth education classes together.  We have been invited into the delivery room and some of us don’t even pass out.  We are bonding with our newborns kangaroo style and changing diapers now and again.  For some dads these paternal bonding rituals come naturally, but for many of us it doesn’t.  I remember the first time my wife left me home alone with our one month old.   He was well fed and wide awake and I had no idea what to do with him.  We had a starring contest for 25 minutes and then he drooled and made baby noises while I answered some emails.

Four kids and eight years later, I am finally getting the hang of being that hands-on dad who is more involved.   And I really truly love it except for the few times that I absolutely hate it.  I just wish I had more time to juggle all of the responsibilities of home and work.  I sometimes get so busy and focused on work (which is natural for guys) that when I finally come home I find that my two year old has turned seven and can beat me at basketball.  This Fathers Day I look forward to spending quality time with my wife and kids and giving my android phone the day off (product placement, sorry).   While I can’t buy more time, it’s completely my choice to make the time that I do have count.  Uh oh, I smell a poopie.  Duty calls.

Dr. Elliot Berlin is a prenatal and family chiropractor and founder of Berlin Wellness Group bringing prenatal and family wellness care to four Southern California locations.  Through his Informed Pregnancy Project, Dr. Berlin is empowering new and expectant parents to make informed pregnancy, postpartum and parenting choices through projects such as Dr. Berlin’s Informed Pregnancy Guide, Boobie-Palooza, Ultimate Prenatal Date Night and the upcoming launch of his Daddycast posdcast this summer.  Dr. Berlin lives with his wife, Dr. Alyssa Berlin, and their four kids in Los Angeles.

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